Hurting Hearts

It's always In those moments I experience great joy that God allows me to have clear vision. I have a clear conscious and am without distraction from any negativity. I like to call it my "happy place". When I'm in my happy place I do my best to bring joy to other people as well; Kind of like "sharing the wealth". However, the fact of the matter is, you can't always bring joy to miserable people. Some people will reject the happiness you spew into them. Jealousy, envy, hatred, or simply the lack of care towards people and what they are experiencing in their own lives has a way of becoming a defense mechanism for the miserable or what I like to call them, The Broken-Hearted.

Broken-hearted people find it hard to find joy in something they've never experienced for themselves. Some will put in a little effort to "show support". Some broken-hearted people will actually attempt to care, but it's hard for someone whose heart is longing for what you have to truly support you. I understand the Broken-Hearted because I was once that person. I truly thank God for answering my prayers and helping me to cleanse my heart from jealousy, envy, and hatred towards people who have what I feel I deserve or should have myself. It took me a while to understand the importance of walking in my season, accepting that it may not be my season of prosperity, and helping to build and support someone else's vision when they were walking in their season. “If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care — then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand”

‭‭(Philippians‬ ‭2:1-4‬ ‭MSG‬‬).

The more I seek God and study His word I become accepting of those things I cannot change. I have also become more joyous when it comes to helping someone else manifest their dreams. It took a while for me to get there, but I trust God and I believe His word. His word says, “He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much. If therefore ye have not been faithful in the unrighteous mammon, who will commit to your trust the true riches? And if ye have not been faithful in that which is another man's, who shall give you that which is your own?”(‭‭Luke‬ ‭16:10-12‬ ‭KJV‬‬). “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not” ‭‭(Galatians‬ ‭6:7-9‬ ‭KJV‬). “Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again” (‭‭Luke‬ ‭6:38‬ ‭KJV‬‬).

It is finally my season and I am truly reaping what I've sown. When I stayed true to Gods word and 100% trusted His promises I was able to be the light for so many different people. I may not have been where I wanted to be in my personal life, I may have even been going through a drought financially, but I rely on the principle of sowing and reaping and I will always do whatever it takes when God speaks to me and tells me He wants to use me to help build another man's vision; because I've sown my seeds financially in the kingdom of God and spread my seeds of wisdom into the people of God, faithfully, and live my life according to His purpose for me His promises are beginning to come to pass in my life. “So also faith, if it does not have works (deeds and actions of obedience to back it up), by itself is destitute of power (inoperative, dead)”‭‭(James‬ ‭2:17‬ ‭AMP‬‬). “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” ‭(‭Hebrews‬ ‭11:1‬ ‭KJV‬‬).“What I’m getting at, friends, is that you should simply keep on doing what you’ve done from the beginning. When I was living among you, you lived in responsive obedience. Now that I’m separated from you, keep it up. Better yet, redouble your efforts. Be energetic in your life of salvation, reverent and sensitive before God. That energy is God’s energy, an energy deep within you, God himself willing and working at what will give him the most pleasure”(‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:12-13‬ ‭MSG‬‬).

As I journey through my season I thank God more and more each day for bestowing upon me the spirit of understanding. It doesn't matter what I'm going through or how people make me feel, I will always take the time to separate my spirit from my emotions and evaluate the situation from the other persons perspective. Not everyone's relationship with God will be the same as mine, so my beliefs and those things I trust to be true for me aren't the same as the things other people trust to be true for themselves. This is why it's important to separate yourself from individuals who aren't supportive of you, your goals, dreams/visions. And those who aren't like-minded with you. Not saying connect with people who do everything you do and nothing aside from it, but nurture the connections that share the same interests as you. Connect with people who believe in you.

Negative Nancy's bring discourse. Negativity disrupts your focus and slowly, but surely depletes you of your dreams. You can't soar when you're drowning in a sea of negativity. Jealous and envious connections will always find something wrong with what you say or do. They will tell you what you can't do and do whatever it is in their power to keep you from maximizing your full potential. Jealousy makes you feel like you're trying to be better than them. Envy competes. “But if you have bitter jealousy (envy) and contention (rivalry, selfish ambition) in your hearts, do not pride yourselves on it and thus be in defiance of and false to the Truth. This [superficial] wisdom is not such as comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual (animal), even devilish (demoniacal). For wherever there is jealousy (envy) and contention (rivalry and selfish ambition), there will also be confusion (unrest, disharmony, rebellion) and all sorts of evil and vile practices. But the wisdom from above is first of all pure (undefiled); then it is peace-loving, courteous (considerate, gentle). [It is willing to] yield to reason, full of compassion and good fruits; it is wholehearted and straightforward, impartial and unfeigned (free from doubts, wavering, and insincerity). And the harvest of righteousness (of conformity to God's will in thought and deed) is [the fruit of the seed] sown in peace by those who work for and make peace [in themselves and in others, that peace which means concord, agreement, and harmony between individuals, with undisturbedness, in a peaceful mind free from fears and agitating passions and moral conflicts]”‭‭(James‬ ‭3:14-18‬ ‭AMP‬‬).

It doesn't matter how far I go in life or how low I may get, I will never babysit or nurture toxic relationships, friendships, or connections. When a person knows who they are and whose they are there is a level of understanding that can't be dismayed to believe that they are anything less than what they're worth defines them as. I know who I am, I know what I am capable of. I know who I serve. I know who I belong to. My God is BIG and with Him I can achieve the unimaginable!

I encourage you to dream without distractions. Live your life right. Love people how God tells you to love them and trust that His word is true. Don't feed into negativity. Your enemy is anyone who tries to keep you from your dreams, your goals, and your happiness. If a relationship depletes you of your joy or your peace of mind, separate yourself. I also encourage you to take a break from people at least once in your life to find out who you really are, what you stand for, and figure out your purpose in life. I pray you all have clear vision and a clear conscious. I pray you walk in love and live to be a blessing to people. God is love, it's the enemy who comes and tries to torment you and disrupt your peace -Know the difference! Be blessed and enjoy the season you are in. There's blessings and multiple lessons to be learned in every season of life.

Love,

ChelCy

#hurtinghearts #lessonslearned