When Are You Getting Married?

Marriage is such a beautiful thing. To me marriage is a journey two people take under their wings to enjoy. Marriage is about partnership, committing yourself to another human being and ensuring them that you are ready to experience life with them. Marriage is sacred. It's a union that should always be respected and adorned as your most prized possession. I don't feel two individuals will ever be 100% "ready" for marriage. I believe when two people who love each other and can't envision their lives progressing without each other, then they're ready for a commitment. It's amazing to revel in the thought of one day becoming someone's wife -someone's life partner, companion, ride or fly until we die, lover and friend. Knowing that someone adores you enough to share their life with you is awesome. I believe the more marriage becomes the topic of discussion, the more fear begins to creep in. The fear of the unknown is that one thing that forces people to question their heart. It's that one thing that allows others opinions, thoughts, and perspectives to deter you from what could potentially be your future. No one will ever know what their future holds it doesn't matter how much they plan for it, God has the final say so. As long as the couple is equally yolked, understands the importance of maintaining their intimate relationships with Christ, with each other, and as a complete unit, I believe the marriage will succeed. Too many people focus on money when their hearts should be focused on love. Money buys things, but love is free. Money makes the world go round, but it's a resource that can be taken from you at any moment. Money is not guaranteed, but love is. If you marry the person God has sent for you. Although money is an important factor the amount of money a person has shouldn't be the determining factor for marrying someone you love. Throughout life there will be surpluses in your finances as well as declines. In other words, if there is a drought in your finances and the man/woman you married only said "I do" because of what you could do for them, that marriage was a failure to begin with. Never marry for money or because you have money. You can't prepare for life no matter how hard you try, something can always happen. As I grow and age the number 1 question is, When are you getting married? I say I'm not sure but we're talking about it and the number 1 rebuttal is, Don't wait forever. I say I know and when I discuss the depth and the seriousness of the "marriage talk" with my boyfriend, I'm always stopped and told "make sure you are ready" or " do you think he's ready?". In my mind I wouldn't care if he did/didn't seem ready to anyone aside from God. When God tells a man that particular woman is his wife, that should be respected. God is letting that man know that he is to protect, provide, and partner with that woman. She is his help meet, his support system. God is letting that man know that he needs that woman and He specifically designed her for him. There's too much interference with Gods work as it is. I respect a man who listens and obeys God. A man who obeys God will honor and respect me! Why? Because Gods word tells him so. Marriage is a blessing. Not everyone will be "ready" for marriage in the sight of most people. No one can ever truly prepare themselves to live with another person for the rest of their lives. With age comes change. Growth is inevitable. Someone said make sure you're equally yolked and in love with the person you plan on marrying because they only become more of who they already are as they age. I'm open about voicing my opinion when it comes to a lot of things, especially marriage. Marriage is full of ups and downs, twists and turns. You will never be fully prepared for any of it, but at the end of the day knowing that you'll be able to share it with the one person you love, respect, and honor most in this world...that's priceless. Who wouldn't want to grow and learn daily with their best friend? I want that love like back in the old days when our ancestors didn't have much, but as long as they had each other they had enough. I want to marry the man who feels like as long as he has me by his side to ride no matter what, I'm enough. That's how I feel about marriage and it's okay to agree to disagree. I just know my first marriage will be my last marriage and I'm in it for the long haul. Marriage is beautiful and should be respected no matter what. As long as you honor God and walk in His will keeping Him at the forefront of your marriage everything else will fall into place. Who cares what people have to say...but what does God say? Ladies marry the man God sent you. He will confirm to you your mate just as He will let your man know that you're "The One". When the time is right for you make sure you are prepared for a new life of discovery and willing to Trust God no matter the level of difficulty or circumstance. Keep God First. I enjoy learning about marriage and what to expect. I ask a lot of questions from those who have had successful marriages and those who have been divorced. Only a fool thinks they know it all and has it all together. Life is to be learned, skills are to be acquired, and passion is to be provoked and inspired. Listening to an older couple talk and watching how they interact with one another is one of the best ways to learn. I'm learning and most importantly I'm trusting the plan God has for my life. So to answer the number one question of my life right now, "When are you getting married?" When God says so, then so be it! Marriage shouldn't be rushed, it shouldn't occur because you're feeling pressured into it. Just because you've spent a certain amount of time with a person, time doesn't mean "It's Time". A man knows when he's ready. A man of God knows when to trust and say, "Okay God I'll obey!". “And Adam gave names to all the livestock and to the birds of the air and to every [wild] beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh. And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. Then Adam said, This [creature] is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of a man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. [Matt. 19:5; I Cor. 6:16; Eph. 5:31-33.]” ‭‭Genesis‬ ‭2:20-24‬ ‭AMP‬‬ “He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. [Prov. 19:14; 31:10.]” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭18:22‬ ‭AMP‬‬ Trust the process... Love, ChelCy