Let It Go!

Never be afraid to check someone's motives when they are minding your business. I'll say it again... NEVER be afraid to check someone's motives when they are minding YOUR business! I find it funny how a person can feel they have the authority to question you and want to know what's true in your life. Especially people you have no ties to. Please know that everyone who says they are "happy for you" aren't always happy for you. You can't be my friend in public and someone who spits on my name and tries to break my spirit in secret. That's not a friendship. Those types of people aren't your friend. At least those types of people aren't people I would consider my friend. Today someone minded my business and I questioned their motives behind it. For someone to call me their friend -from my perspective- that means they care about you in a certain way. You have a relationship that is strictly plutonic and there is a certain level of respect you have for the person you call friend; at least for me it is. I knew in my heart this person felt none of the above towards me. Although I contemplated not asking this person their intent, I did it anyway. I mean here they are asking me my business, why can't I ask them why they're asking in the first place? As a result of me questioning that persons motives, they attacked me. I knew it was coming, that was just their way of responding to me. No matter how I approached them, that was just the way they felt the need to express themselves to me. There was no respect towards me as a person or as a woman. However, surprisingly their words -the same words that once cut like a knife -didn't hurt me anymore. I realized God had mended my broken heart. Had it been a few months prior I may have broken down and blamed myself for their attack; but I'm not the woman I was a few months ago. I'm not even the woman I was a few days ago... I thank God for that! If your heart is broken, you’ll find GOD right there; if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath. (‭Psalm‬ ‭34‬:‭18‬ MSG) I was disappointed in their response towards me. I had one ounce of hope left that when that person called me "friend" they really viewed me as a friend. To my dismay, they made sure to assure me that friend was used loosely and was just their way of being "nice" to me. As if to say they pitied me. Why they felt that had to force themselves to be nice to me escapes me. It is what it WAS in this case lol. They also reminded me of the initial decision I made to leave them alone. I am so very grateful I had the strength to let my self worth overrule my heart and let them go! Their response reminded me of why I made the decision in the first place. When I say God reveals...you better believe it with every ounce of your being. God will reveal to you everything you need to know about people, in due time. For months I wanted to reach out to this person and just talk to them. Just to get the closure I thought I needed in order to move on with my life and let them go. It's hard to let go of someone you genuinely love. Especially someone who no matter how badly they treat you, talk to you, or handle you...you still love them. Up until today I've been holding onto hurt. I felt I needed closure in order to forgive them for how they treated me. Today I realized I had already forgiven them and it was time that I let them go for good. The longer I held on to the them the longer I felt hurt. The thought of them hurt, communicating with them hurt me. I expressed my love for them along with why I no longer needed them in my life and they felt the need to attack me. My first response wasn't to respond or say anything crazy back to them. I had already spent months arguing over my feelings, miscommunication and feeling drained...I am over it! There comes a time in your life when you never want to do certain things anymore. I didn't feel anger or hatred towards them... I just cried a few tears of disappointment and then I felt a huge sense of relief come over me. I no longer felt bound to the feelings associated with that person. No longer did I feel like I needed closure. I said what I had to say no matter what they had to say in return and I was done with it -case closed. A person whose motives and words are rooted in hatred and malice - never be afraid to let them go! They deplete you of your peace. NO ONE should ever be allowed to have that type of power over you! It is said that "he who angers you, controls you"... let them go. Make no friendships with a man given to anger, and with a wrathful man do not associate, (‭Proverbs‬ ‭22‬:‭24‬ AMP) Today I listened to my gut and God revealed to me that persons true character. Today I understood the true meaning of discernment. Put your trust and your life in the hands of The Lord and he will cover you and protect you from any of the Devils attacks. But test and prove all things [until you can recognize] what is good; [to that] hold fast. Abstain from evil [shrink from it and keep aloof from it] in whatever form or whatever kind it may be. (‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭5‬:‭21-22‬ AMP) Today the devil used someone I care for to hurt me. Instead of lashing out in anger, as the tears swelled up in my eyes and eventually began to roll down my cheeks, I prayed. I prayed that God would continue to cover their life. I prayed that God would intervene in whatever struggles they're dealing with in their life and change their heart so that the devil will no longer have control over their life. I plead the blood of Jesus over their life... I will continue to pray for that person and those people who are consumed with evil thoughts and a vengeful heart. Only the enemy will cause people to pick a fight when you express love. I know because for a long time I was that person. I will always pray for people like them because only God knows where I'd if the people who loved me wouldn't have prayed for me. Thank you to my intercessors, I love you! You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy; But I tell you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, To show that you are the children of your Father Who is in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the wicked and on the good, and makes the rain fall upon the upright and the wrongdoers [alike]. For if you love those who love you, what reward can you have? Do not even the tax collectors do that? And if you greet only your brethren, what more than others are you doing? Do not even the Gentiles (the heathen) do that? You, therefore, must be perfect [growing into complete maturity of godliness in mind and character, having reached the proper height of virtue and integrity], as your heavenly Father is perfect. (‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭43-48‬ AMP) I'm not perfect, I've done things to hurt people and even that person in particular. I repented for my wrongful actions and I have been forgiven by the only man who matters most! I am not the person I was a week ago and I'm most definitely not the person I was a few months ago. Some people will hold onto your past in hopes to dim your future. Luckily for you it's not your problem, it's theirs! Forgive, move on, and let go of any and everyone whose ever caused you any pain. Only a jealous spirit will try to bring you down when they've realized you've built yourself up. I am the daughter of the King who is not moved by the world. For my God is with me and goes before me. I do not fear because I am his! #JustSharing #LifeNotes #LessonLearned #LetItGo Love, ChelCy

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