Give Them Their Flowers Now

Have you ever just thought about someone? Either they've crossed your mind or you saw them and just didn't know what to do? Your mind is suddenly flooded with memories and you want to say hello or ask them how they're doing and you can't because of how the relationship ended? I hate it when that happens.This happened once before and both me and the other person felt the same exact way. We avoided each other until we just couldn't take it anymore and finally broke the ice. If you love someone, tell them. If you miss someone, tell them. If you're wondering how they're doing, check on them -what's the worst that could happen? Life is too short. Give people their flowers while they're still alive to smell them.

Reaching out doesn't show a sign of weakness, it shows your strength. Often times we allow our pride to cloud our judgement when it comes to people simply being people. We allow our ego to direct our motives and discredit people's intentions because we simply don't want to be wrong about how someone feels about us. We've encountered so many disengenous people in our lifetime that when we cross paths with someone worth loving -someone worth caring for- someone who genuinely cares for us --we run them away. We allow fear the upper hand. Not because it is our intent. Nobody wants to live in fear... We just don't know how to handle not being in control.One of the only regrets I've had was failing to tell a sick friend I loved him before he died. My ego along with my temper caused me to scar his ego in the midst of an argument. I'm not the type to hold grudges so I apologized and explained that because he hurt me my words were just the weaponry I used to fight back; he forgave me, but I never got the chance to tell him I love him and I appreciated his friendship. As a result of that one misunderstanding we never held another conversation after our apologies. I thought about him all the time and wondered how he was doing and never reached out. A couple of weeks later he passed away.

At his funeral I promised myself to never allow my pride to get in the way of me letting people know I love them. No matter how bad the relationship was, no matter the misunderstanding - I promised MYSELF that I will always apologize for my actions and try to mend the situations before things got too ugly. Now I can't fix every relationship and I can't force people to communicate with me or even love me. What I can do is reach out to them the best way I know how and to let them know there's no hard feelings... I still love you. If I said it I meant it, you'll never have to question that.

Relationships are beautiful; not all of them will last. Sometimes we love people we can't get along with and that's okay. Just love them from a distance. Nothing is wrong with expressing to someone you care about them. Sometimes you'll reach out and there will be no response -that's fine to. Just find peace in knowing you've done your part. Not everyone is lovable -that doesn't mean you stop sharing your love. Never allow someone else's actions determine your reactions. Be you, regardless. Love. Live. Life. Be Happy!

Love,

ChelCy